how to be a relaxed bride or groom

After working in weddings for several years I’ve seen all sorts of brides and grooms.  I’ve had those who are super laid back and calm right up until the day of the wedding when they suddenly panic about everything, those who stress their way through the whole planning process and then finally let go on their wedding day realising there is nothing more they can do, and then those who are just so relaxed the whole way through that you are sure they are going to suddenly lose it on the day but they don’t!

From my experience with couples, these are my top tips for how to be a relaxed bride (or groom)…

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Planning a wedding really does take over your life and can place your relationship under a lot of pressure – not only are you dealing with the changing nature of your relationship but you are also having to make decisions together which have financial as well as other implications.  You might never have been placed in this sort of situation before and it can be difficult.  Make sure you talk things through and be fair to one another – listen to each other’s views and ideas, understand what is important to each other and be prepared to compromise on things.  This will place you in great stead for years of joint decision-making!  Also make sure that you take time out from wedding planning to just enjoy each other’s company like you did before you got engaged!

Tip #2 – Share the load

Russell-Veronica-Faversham-House-York-Wedding-iZO-Photography-1463As much as we like to believe that brides and grooms share the wedding load, we know that it’s usually the bride taking on most of the organisational work.  Planning a wedding can become like having a second job – it’s a lot of work and stress for one person to handle.  Grooms, make sure you let your bride know that you are willing to help wherever possible.  Even if you don’t get much of a look-in, take an interest when she does start talking about the wedding.  You might think she wants you to say “Whatever you want”, but receiving your honest opinion will make things a lot easier on her.  And brides, try and let your groom be involved.  He may not have given as much thought to this day as you have, but it is his day too and this means he should be involved in making decisions as well as taking on some of the work.  Even if you don’t think so, you will need him at some point in the process, and it’s so much more fun and rewarding to work together to create a day that you both enjoy.  Also remember to be open to offers of help from family and friends.  Of course there are things you want handled by a professional, but allowing your loved ones to be involved where possible will not only make them feel special and make your day more meaningful but it will also take pressure off you.

Tip #3 – Be organised

076Do as much as you possibly can as early as you can.  If you can get the big ticket items like venue, caterer, photographer, videographer, stylist, florist and furniture/décor hire locked in you can relax and then worry about the little details later.  Many vendors get booked a year or more in advance, so getting in early is the best way to avoid disappointment and get your planning on track.  Another bonus is that once you have your vendors locked in they will contact you at the appropriate times to finalise details so you don’t have to try and keep track of every little thing that needs to be done.

It’s a good idea to be organised from an administrative perspective as well.  Keep a file or electronic folder containing all vendor information including contracts and invoices and to set payment reminders in your calendar.  If you are able it’s also worth paying off some of those invoices early so you aren’t left with too many payments needing to be made in the couple of weeks before the wedding when you will have other things to think about.

Tip #4 – Choose the right vendors and then trust them

Choosing the wrong vendors can actually result in more stress for you.  You want vendors who you can trust and won’t need to micromanage – SPW466this means vendors who are professional, experienced, enthusiastic and share the same style as you.  It is definitely important to look at a vendor’s previous work, experience and client testimonials, but in the end you also need to like them so make sure that you meet with them and see whether you click before signing anything.  Finally, once you lock them in, trust them to do what you are paying them to do.  The right vendor will add so much value to the planning of your day, well beyond the fee they are charging.

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Look at your wedding day for what it is – a celebration of your love and commitment to one another, shared with your loved ones.  Remember why you are getting married in the first place – no, it’s not for the pretty flowers, expensive dress or delicious food – so if any of those details are stressing you out don’t let them.  Appreciate that this is going to be an amazing day but it’s not because of the details – it’s because you are making a lifelong commitment to your partner and you will probably never again get to have all of your family and friends together in the one place at the one time.  Enjoy it for what it is and don’t sweat the stuff that doesn’t really matter.

Photo credits from top to bottom: Teneil Kable; iZo Photography; CJ Williams Photography; Teneil Kable; Samm Blake.

on trend: geometrics

As much as I love vintage styled weddings I have been excited to see some new trends emerging over the past year.  One of these is geometrics – a great way to add a clean, modern look to your wedding and perfect for industrial venues such as a warehouse or modern venues such as a gallery or winery.

We’ve added lots of geometric décor items to our hire collection recently including concrete votives, white ceramic hurricanes, copper and glass lanterns, ceramic shapes, black glass votives, photo frames and rugs.  So if it’s a geometric wedding you are after, you have come to the right place!

Here are some examples of how you can incorporate geometric elements into your styling.

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Image credits left to right: Keeper Creative; Orange Owl Photography; Sweet Root Village; Angel He; Amber Vickery; Kate Ignatowski for Bella Figura; Design Atelier Article via Etsy; Jenavieve Belair; Sunny 16; Melissa Biador; Jason Hales.

 

featured wedding: franky & stephen

Take one super cruisy couple, add some great vendors, an idyllic spot on the Perth foreshore and beautiful weather and you have Franky and Stephen’s wedding!  Yes it was a dream, and Style Me Pretty Australia agreed, featuring this sweet day on their blog last week.

If there is any example of how great things can turn out when you choose the right vendors this is it!  Her Handpicked Harvest supplied the vintage industrial themed furniture and Katie Cooper worked her usual magic, tempering the industrial elements with soft romantic florals.  Micktric Events put together the most perfect lighting set up for the location as always.  My Wey of Life supplied the most delectable desserts for our dessert cabinet, and Bangkok Jump Street provided colourful and flavoursome street style food for dinner.

Of course we needed the perfect photographer to capture such a perfect day, and we definitely got her!  Here is a selection of images by photographer extraordinaire Teneil Kable.

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Images by Teneil Kable

eco elegance at raw kitchen

You may recall that last May we exhibited at Wedding Upmarket and collaborated with some wonderful vendors to bring to life a coastal themed styled space.

As we’d all worked so hard on putting it together, a few of us decided to develop what we’d done for Upmarket into a styled shoot which is featured in the current edition of Tickle the Imagination, a fantastic Perth-based magazine.

We wanted to demonstrate that you don’t have to compromise on style or elegance to have an eco-friendly wedding.  When we think eco-friendly we normally picture a vintage or bohemian style wedding – we wanted to do something that didn’t obviously look eco-friendly.

We used repurposed or locally made/sourced products as much as possible as well as featuring hired gowns.  The venue was Raw Kitchen in Fremantle which uses local, organic and ethical produce wherever possible and has a menu is designed to minimise food miles, unnecessary transport and storage.

Here is the full list of vendors involved:

Photography – iZO Photography /Styling – Flights of Fancy by Kristy / Fashion styling and hairpieces – Olive Farm Designs / Prop hire – Pretty Willow / Florals – Ivy / Makeup – Theodorus Makeup / Hair styling – Hera Studio by Jessica Juanita / Gowns – Tux & Tutu / Stationery – The Articulate / Ceramics – Patricia Fernandes / Cake – Cherry Pies Cakes / Venue – Raw Kitchen

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featured wedding: sam and paul

I think Sam was the most organised bride I’ve ever dealt with.  She would come to each meeting we had with her folder, neatly divided into categories, filled with inspiration as well as the more mundane parts of organising a wedding such as contracts and invoices.  She was an absolute delight to work with and her organisation definitely paid off.  This wedding was one gorgeous event that went off without a hitch.  Even the weather played nice and the showers that were forecast for the day stayed away.

The reception was held in the backyard of the groom’s uncle and it truly was the perfect venue for a wedding with carefully manicured gardens, plenty of room and a grand staircase which made for stunning photographs.

The best thing about this day was that it was filled with emotion and happiness that can clearly be seen in the eyes of the bride, groom and their loved ones in these images by Teneil Kable.  Congratulations Sam and Paul – I know that this is the beginning of a wonderful marriage as you are so perfect together!

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Images by Teneil Kable / Styling by Flights of Fancy by Kristy / Lighting by Micktric Events / Prop hire by Pretty Willow and Hire Society

wedding skirts

I think wearing a skirt for your wedding day rather than a dress is such a great idea.  It makes it so much easier to find something that fits you perfectly and expresses your personality and style, whether that be traditional, ultra modern or something in between.  Plus the likelihood of you being able to wear at least part of your wedding outfit again is much higher – you could easily dress down your skirt by pairing it with a more casual top or wear your top with pants.

Bhldn currently has a gorgeous range of bridal skirts in all sorts of styles which can be paired with their singlets, corsets and toppers (essentially cover-ups to be worn over a singlet).  You can check them out here.  So pretty – makes me want to get married again! *sigh*

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we survived march!

Well, March is pretty much over and I am happy to report that we survived!  (Only just!)  We still have a few more weddings and other things planned for April before we head off on a little break overseas which we’re definitely looking forward to.

I know that the blog has been a bit quiet lately and I’m hoping to rectify that now that the busiest month of our wedding season is over and share with you some of the amazing weddings we’ve been so lucky to work on over the past wedding season.  We also have some new team members to introduce you to who have really been stepping up and keeping me sane over the past few months!

For now, here is a snap I took at a wedding we styled this past weekend at Donnelly River Village.  We used hay bales for seating and the kangaroos clearly enjoyed snacking on them – luckily they waited until after the ceremony!

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